Living in China

He’s just not that into you – China Edition

I just read he’s just not that into you last night and it’s a great book! I also recommend the movie for someone who is looking for the right one or is dating the wrong one or just for pure entertainment. I started thinking if there would be a China edition of this book, how would it look like? (If you know there is, please let me know!)

He’s just not that into you if he’s not asking your QQ number

QQ is The One instant messaging software in China and everyone is using it. As a foreign girl people will aks your QQ number on the street, so if the guy you are interested in isn’t asking, he surely is blind or  wouldn’t give a damn.

He’s jut not that into you if he’s not carrying your purse

China is the land of cute girls and gentlemen boyfriends who would do anything for their loved one. So pay notice to this sign, if your guy isn’t carrying your handbag he truly doesn’t care enough about you.

He’s just not that into you if he’s not telling his parents

Filial piety is doing well in China and most kids, even when they’re adults, choose to listen their parents. If your Chinese boyfriend don’t want to tell his parents about you, he is not taking your relationship seriously.

I know Chinese guy who dated a foreign girl over five years and always just forgot to mention to the parents they’re dating, they moved together and they got engaged. What happened? In the end he changed her for a Chinese girl!

He’s jut not that into you if he’s…

No it’s your turn to give relationship advice in the comments!


  • Jin

    Very interesting post Sara! You’ve noticed a lot of Chinese culture things about relationship! Even in business or daily acquaintance, people always ask others for QQ, just like Hong Kong people would ask for their new friends’ Facebook.

    Carrying purse is a courtesy done by the guy, I don’t really like this culture… but I guess it works in China for a reason. :)

    Meeting parents is so important everywhere, but in China it’s a very explicit way to show that if he loves you or not :)

  • Karina Santoso

    He’s just not that into you if he doesn’t want to carry an umbrella for you or ride a bike for you. lol

    Sara Reply:

    These are so true Karina! How could I forgot to mention the riding a bike while the girlfriend is sitting on the back. And Chinese guys also like to tell you when to open the umbrella so you don’t have to even notice if it starts to rain.

  • Holly~~

    Haha! Great post Sara, this made me laugh, it’s so true. Not telling his parents is definitely a BIG one. But come to think of it…my boyfriend won’t carry my purse! Uh oh. Maybe he’s not that into me after all… =/ NOOOOOOOOO!

    Sara Reply:

    Holly, I have some training to do with my boyfriend as well! ;) He have carried my purse only once and that was when my mom was visiting us! So does that even count?

    C Reply:

    well you neva write what did your family in finland thought of you getting a china guy for a bf? What were their reactions?

    Sara Reply:

    Another reader, Sarianna, just asked about the same thing. Have to write a post about this soon!

  • abdyrahman

    this is really awkward! not into you if he aint carrying your purse for a foriegner girl? have u noticed that it wont happen carrying the purse or letting him carry cuz you are both strangers to eachother! anyway i have seen that guy holding teh purse but it never struck my head it was generousity! i thought it was just new style purse for chinese guys!! omg good darn thing but i would like to advise foreign girls not to let em hold their purses this aint newyork streets. watch out

  • SigridEkman

    aw… this blog post started out so well but then it ended way too soon!

    Sara Reply:

    You’re quite right, I should make a second edition.