Language difficulties in a relationship

Language difficulties in a relationship

Date: 2011.09.09 | Category: Finnish-Chinese Relationship | Tags:

Jocelyn just published my guest post Language barriers in love. It was really exciting and nervous to write to Speaking of China because it’s perhaps the best blog out there about foreign women and Chinese men.

“How do you communicate with your Chinese boyfriend when your Chinese is not fluent?” I have been asked this question many times — by friends, acquaintances and now by Jocelyn. I want to share what it’s like to have language challenges in your relationship, and offer some tips that helped me and my boyfriend during our first year together.

To read the rest of my guest post go to Speaking of China and remember to leave a comment!

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http://sveta-randomblog.blogspot.com/ Aurora85

Congrats on having your post be on speakingofchina blog :D If I might ask, how does one find out if the guy/girl know the ideas and emotions behind words?

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Sara Reply:
September 9th, 2011 at 10:11 pm
Thank you Aurora! You just have to see what he/she replies to you and how the discussion goes. It’s not easy in the beginning but gets better when you get to know him/her. Still I have to admit that me and my boyfriend still sometimes misunderstand each other “What? I though you meant X not Y.” If your talking about something serious, something that you want to make sure he/she understands correctly, try saying the thing more than one way and asking him/her questions that will show you if you two are talking about the same thing.

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Jack

Hey Sara, not sure what level of mandarin you have now, but I just discovered another great website about learning Mandarin (from an expat who learned Chinese for over 20 years):
http://chitchatchinese.wordpress.com

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Sara Reply:
September 25th, 2011 at 1:40 am
Thank you, I’ll take a look!

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http://www.graspchinese.com Dani Wang

Hi Sara, I read some of your blog postings with great interest. I belong to the more common Western-Chinese relationship types! I was inspired to try to make the Chinese language more accessible to Westerners. Take a look at my website if you have time. I’m trying to spread the word by asking certain bloggers if they’d like to do a review or write-up?

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Sara Reply:
October 4th, 2011 at 9:04 am
Hi Dani Wang! I had a quick look at your site and it looks great! I will take a better look when I have time.

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http://eastasiastudent.net Hugh Grigg

Really good post over there. It’s true that your spoken Chinese doesn’t shoot up like you’d expect it to being in a relationship with a Chinese person. Like you say, you quickly develop your own style of communication that isn’t “fluent Chinese”, but it gets the job done. Helpful for the relationship, but you have to make the effort in to deepen your language. I like your use of ‘deepen’ for that! :)

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Callie Hogan

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Jin Jarnus

I love people-watching, just sitting in the mall and watching all the different people walk by. There are couples with their hands intertwined walking slowly and talking, there are couples with children and a urgent expression. You see people who are older walking alone, and people who are young walking with groups of friends. Then I noticed two young ladies, not talking but using their hands to communicate, sign language. A simple but powerful language which requires not your vocal chords, but your hands. A language of doing.

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