Let me start with a story from last spring.
An Italian young man came to China as an exchange student to study Chinese. He and his fellow classmates enjoyed having fun on the weekends and usually headed to bars in downtown Guangzhou. He noticed that he got a lot of attention from Chinese girls just by doing nothing. Just by being a foreign man. Perhaps the muscles didn’t hurt either.
Soon he found himself a Chinese girlfriend and spent time with her and with his friends. But every time he went to a bar he didn’t want his girlfriend to come with him. Once he said something like this: “But I like those other girls too!”
Then one day his Italian girlfriend, who have been missing him for months, came to Guangzhou to see him. They went to dinner with his friends and the Italian girlfriend sat on the right side of him. Who sat on the left side? His Chinese girlfriend of course!
Luckily his Italian girlfriend wasn’t that naive and soon figured out what was going on with her “boyfriend”. She flew back to Italy and took one thing with her. His passport! I guess he deserved it.
No, I didn’t make this up. This is a true story and unfortunately just one of many situations between Chinese girls and Western men I’ve seen. I know men cheating on their girlfriends back home. Single men having fun with several Chinese girls and letting a girl think that she is special and his only girl. I have heard of husbands cheating their wife without getting caught.
What is wrong with these men? My theory is that because it’s easy for a Western man (even easier if you’re tall and good looking) to get attention and more from Chinese women. They are more popular here than back home. Suddenly there are so many girls around them that it gets to their heads. They start to think they are better than they are. They think that it’s impossible to get caught.
I don’t accept cheating at all. I know what it does to people and it’s nothing good. I have been myself cheated very very badly before I moved to China. Why don’t these men just man up and break up with their girlfriend or wife if they want someone else? Why they only think of themselves? Why they don’t feel responsible for their family that will get hurt?
Remember, not every Western man is like this. You don’t have to assure me that you don’t belong to this group. But you if you get angry after reading this, think for a minute, why are you angry to me about something you have done? I have seen enough cheating here in Guangzhou.
For all the Chinese girls reading this, take care of yourself. I don’t want to see your hurt. For all the good Western men out there, thank you.